In sports, either you win or you lose? When you get to win you celebrate and cheer, but that doesn’t mean you have to be sad and discouraged when you lose. We always say “be sport”.
But how will you comfort a child when they get to lose?
Kids tend to be competitive and very emotional at the same time, so the moment they lose or got hurt they will definitely cry and whine. My son practicing Jiu Jitsu exposed him to possible physical harm every time they grapple,roll or even on drills. I always have to tell him to be careful and be focus. But once in a while he got hurt or lose on grappling – he doesn’t cry like others but still we have to teach him making sure he is really alright:
- Assure him that he did the best he can, it’s just not enough to win the price or competition.
- Show and tell him how proud you are and emphasize his great skills – this will make them feel good about themselves.
- Encourage him to do it again or practice more. “The more practice, the better he get.”
- Give him a little gift or reward for joining and trying his best. Kids are so simple and so appreciative – a small toy or a favorite meal will make him happy.
- Give him your own stories of losing and how you become better. This way they will understand that losing happens to everyone.
We have to make sure that our kids learned from losing, and that will encourage them to do more and not to give up. If we comfort them in a good way that they will learn how to accept failure and be a winner next time.
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