How to reward your kids without spoiling them? That is one of parents dilemma nowadays as kids tend to misunderstood. What is the difference of rewarding and spoiling?
Rewarding or “reward system” is a positive reinforcement to your children’s good actions and achievements. It is a way to show appreciation and praises to your children. When you give reward there must be a good reason, reasons as simple as saying their gratitude, saying sorry for every wrong doing, helping easy chores, taking care their little brother or even cleaning up after play time. In return we have to give reward like saying praises or allowing them to play a little bit more. There are non-material and material things as incentives or reward.
While spoiling on the other hand is overindulging you children on things and more often giving without any reasons. Over pampering your kids might harm their character in the long run. So parents should know when to stop and change this type of kindness.
To be able to reward your kids without spoiling, you should know the difference;
- Reward – when you give there should be a good reason
- Spoiling – when you give with no reason at all
Mom POV:
As a parent we have to set a “reward system” and make sure to explain them how it works. Even though its not a bad idea to spoil your children because of how much we love them and some just can afford things, make sure not to overdo it and always provide explanation. Remember, if they have a better understanding they will do more rewarding actions.
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